St. John Lutheran Church
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St. John Lutheran Church
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WEDDING GUIDELINES AND RESOURCES
St. John Lutheran Church 207 Adams St. Port Clinton, Ohio 43452 419.734.5548 contactus@stjohnlutheranpc.com
Preface It is always a delight for the church to share in the marriage of couples who are seeking to make a lifelong commitment to each other in the Name of Christ and in the Presence of God and God’s People. Throughout the planning process and the wedding itself, it is good to remember that the Marriage Service belongs to the Church, and is a liturgy in praise of God, seeking God’s blessing upon the bridal couple and the assembled congregation. A church wedding is, first of all, a worship service. In this worship, we praise God and we celebrate the gracious gifts which God grants to those who enter into marriage. The entire service is to give glory to God. This sense of praise to our Lord is the theme that is the foundation for all our wedding guidelines and practices here at St. John. The Church Council of St. John Evangelical Lutheran Church has adopted the following as a foundational statement for all weddings that will take place in this congregation or by its pastors in other locations: “Resolved, that all marriage services should reflect our Lutheran Christian understanding that they are services of worship. Thus, all texts, music and decorations will reflect our concern that the primary purpose of such a service is to give clear witness to what God has done, is doing now, and will continue to do for those who live in marriage. The marriage service will focus on our praise to God, our thanksgiving offered to God, and our receiving of God’s gifts of grace and blessing.” All couples who choose to schedule their marriage worship service here at St. John Lutheran Church should do so with a willingness to abide by the above foundational statement.
Expectations
Worship Guidelines All marriage worship services will follow the pattern for the Service of Marriage in the EVANGELICAL LUTHERAN WORSHIP, (ELW). There is a great deal of flexibility which will allow couples to include various options in the service. Options might include: Lighting of the Unity Candle, Holy Communion, The Apostle’s Creed, and other options with the approval of the Pastor. Marriage vows will be selected by the bridal couple from a number of options from the Resource part of this document. There shall be lessons from the Scriptures read, and a homily proclaimed, celebrating God’s blessing and empowering of marriage. Appropriate passages are available in the Marriage Resources Section. Music that will be included in the service must reflect the praise of God, witness to God’s steadfast love in Christ, and seek God’s blessing upon those who enter into marriage. All music must be approved by either the Pastor or Organist. The Organist and Pastor have many resources to assist you in the selection of music that is appropriate for worship, and will work with you in this process. The inclusion of at least one congregational hymn is encouraged. A list of appropriate hymns can be found in the Marriage Resources Section. St. John’s Organist shall normally be the organist for all weddings. If St. John’s Organist is unable to play, another may be invited to play, with the approval of St. John’s Organist and Pastor. If the bridal couple desires to have another organist play for their wedding, permission must be secured from St. John’s Organist, Pastor, and the Worship Committee. The bridal couple may invite a soloist to participate in the worship service. As previously stated, all music must be approved by the Pastor and the Organist. Also, other instrumentalists may be included in the service. All weddings at St. John’s shall include the Pastor of St. John as the Presiding Pastor. Another ordained Pastor may be invited to participate in the service at the request of the couple, and with the consent of St. John’s Pastor and the Church Council. A wedding worship service may not be scheduled during Holy Week (from 6pm on the eve of the Sunday of the Passion, through 6pm on Holy Saturday) because of the solemn character of that time. 7. If Holy Communion is celebrated within the marriage service, it must be open to the assembled congregation, and not limited to just the bride and groom, or the wedding party. Wedding bulletins, listing the order of the worship service, music and wedding party, et., can be provided, if you so desire. The bridal couple will purchase the bulletins, normally at a Christian book store. The congregation will print them through the Church Office at no charge.
Wedding Fees & Honorariums The following fees and honorariums shall apply for all weddings. With sufficient need, they may be waived at the discretion of the Pastor and Church Council.
Fees for the use of the Building Member Non-Member Sanctuary (wedding) -0- $300.00 Parish Hall for reception -0- $150.00
Honorariums 1. Custodian a. Sanctuary only $110.00 $110.00 b. Sanctuary with Aisle Candles $125.00 $125.00 c. Parish Hall Cleaning $15 /hr $15/hr
2. Organist $110.00 $110.00 a. With Soloist/Instrumental $140.00 $140.00 3. Pastor $100.00 $125.00
MARRIAGE RESOURCES
Psalms and Scripture Passages for a Service of Marriage Psalm 33 Genesis 1:26-31 Ephesians 5:21-33 Psalm 100 Genesis 2:18-24 Colossians 3:12-14 Psalm 117 Isaiah 63:7-9 Romans 12:1-2 Psalm 127 John 2:1-10 John 15:9-12 Psalm 128 I Corinthians 13:1-13 Matthew 19:4-6 Psalm 136 Song of Solomon 2:10-13 Psalm 130 Song of Solomon 8:7
Hymns for Congregational Singing Hear Us Now Our God and Father (585) The King of Love (502) This Is a Day, Lord, Gladly Awaited (586) Bind Us Together Beloved God’s Chosen (648) When Love Is Found Come, My Way, My Truth, My Life (816) Borning Cry (732) Jesus, come! For We Invite You (312) When Love Is Found Joyful, Joyful We Adore Thee (836) Praise to the Lord (858) Now Thank We All Our God (839,840) Blest be the Tie (656) O Morning Star, How Fair and Bright (308) Love Divine (631) Soul, Adorn yourself with Gladness (488,489) You Are Mine (581)
Evangelical Lutheran Worship Marriage Service
Entrance The Ministers and the wedding group enter. Music—hymn, song, psalm, instrumental music—may accompany the entrance.
Greeting The presiding minister and the assembly greet each other. The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, the love of God, and the communion of the Holy Spirit be with you all. And also with you.
introduction of service Option A: Dear friends: We have come together in the presence of God to witness the marriage of ________ and _________, to surround them with our prayers and to share in their hope. The scriptures teach us that the bond and covenant of marriage is a gift of God in which a man and a woman are joined as one, an image of the union of Christ and the church. As ________ and ________ make their promises to each other today, we remember that at Cana in Galilee our Lord Jesus Christ made the wedding feast a sign of God’s reign of love. Let us enter into this celebration confident that, through the Holy Spirit, Christ is present with us now also. We pray that this couple may fulfill God’s purpose for the whole of their lives. Option B: The Lord God in his goodness created us male and female, and by the gift of marriage founded human community in a joy that begins now and is brought to perfection in the life to come. Because of sin, our age-old rebellion, the gladness of marriage can be overcast and the gift of the family can become a burden. But because God, who established marriage, continues still to bless it with abundant and ever-present support, we can be sustained in our weariness and have our joy restored. Option C: ________ and ________ have come to make their marriage vows in the presence of God and of this assembly. The uniting of this man and this woman in heart, body, and mind is intended by God for their mutual joy, for the help and comfort they give to one another in prosperity and adversity, and that their love may be a blessing to all whom they encounter. Let us now witness their promises to each other and surround them with our prayers, giving thanks to God for the gift of marriage and asking God’s blessing upon them, that they may be strengthened for their life together and nurtured in the love of God.
Declaration of Intention The minister addresses the couple in these or similar words, asking each person in turn: Option A: _______, will you have _______ to be your wife/husband, to live together in the covenant of marriage? Will you love her/him, comfort her/him, honor and keep her/him, in sickness and in health, and, forsaking all others, be faithful to her/him as long as you both shall live? Response: I will. Option B: _________, will you receive ______ as your wife/husband and bind yourself to her/him in the covenant of marriage? Will you promise to love and honor her/him in true devotion, to rejoice with her/him in times of gladness, to grieve with her/him in times of sorrow, and to be faithful to her/him as long as you both shall live? Response: I will. Option C: ______, living in the promise of God, joined to Christ in Baptism, will you give yourself to ______ in love and faithfulness? Will you share your life with her/him, in joy and in sorrow, in health and in sickness, for richer, for poorer, for better, for worse, and will you be faithful to her/him as long as you both shall live? Response: I will. The minister may address the assembly. Option A: Will all of you, by God's grace, uphold and care for _____ and ______ in their life together? We will.
Option B: Will you, the families of ______ and ______., give your love and blessing to this new family? We will.
Prayer of the Day The presiding minister leads the following or another prayer of the day. Option A: Let us pray. Gracious God, you sent your Son Jesus Christ into the world to reveal your love to all people. Enrich ____ and ____ with every good gift, that their life together may show forth your love; and grant that at the last we may all celebrate with Christ the marriage feast that has no end; in the name of Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen. Option B: Let us pray. Eternal God, our creator and redeemer, as you gladdened the wedding at Cana in Galilee by the presence of your Son, so bring your joy to this wedding by his presence now. Look in favor upon ____ and _____ and grant that they, rejoicing in all your gifts, may at length celebrate the unending marriage feast with Christ our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, now and forever. Amen.
Readings Two or three scripture readings are proclaimed. Sermon
Hymn of the Day A hymn of the day may be sung or special music.
Vows The couple may join hands. Each promises faithfulness to the other in these or similar words.
_______ and ______, I invite you to declare your vows to one another.
OPTION A: I take you, _____, to be my wife/husband from this day forward, to join with you and share all that is to come, and I promise to be faithful to you until death parts us.
OPTION B: In the presence of God and this community, I, ____, take you, name, to be my wife/husband; to have and to hold from this day forward, in joy and in sorrow, in plenty and in want, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, as long as we both shall live. This is my solemn vow.
OPTION C: I take you ______ to be my wife/husband, and these things I promise you. I will be faithful to you and honest with you. I will respect and trust, help and care for you. I will share my life with you. I will forgive you, as we have been forgiven. And I will try with you to better understand ourselves, the world and God, through the best and worst of what is to come until death parts us.
OPTION D: I take you ______, to be my wife/husband. I promise before God and these witnesses to be your faithful husband, to share with you in plenty and in want; in joy and in sorrow; in sickness and in health; to forgive and strengthen you, and to join with you, so that together, we may serve God and others as long as we both shall live.
OPTION E: _______, I take you to be my wife/husband from this time onward. To join with you and to share all that is to come. To give and to receive, to speak and to listen, to inspire and to respond. And in all circumstances of our life together to be loyal to you with all my life and with all my being until death parts us.
OPTION F: I take you, ________ to be my wife/husband. I promise before God and these witnesses to be your faithful husband, to join with you and to share all that is to come. To give and to receive, to speak and to listen, to inspire and to respond, to forgive and strengthen you. And to join with you, so that together we may both serve God and others as long as we both shall live.
Giving of Rings
Option A. Let us pray. We give you thanks, O God of grace, for your love and faithfulness to your people. May these rings be symbols of the promise _______ and ______ have made with each other; through Jesus Christ, our Savior and Lord.
Option B: Bless O Lord, this ring, that he/she who gives it and she/he who wears it may abide forever in your peace, continue in your favor; through Jesus Christ our Lord.
The couple may exchange rings with these or similar words. OPTION A: _______ , I give you this ring as a sign of my love and faithfulness. OPTION B: _______ I give you this ring as a symbol of my vow. With all that I am, and all that I have, I honor you, in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.
Acclamation The presiding minister addresses the assembly. ____ and ____ by their promises before God and in the presence of this assembly, have joined themselves to one another as husband and wife. Those whom God has joined together let no one separate. Amen. Thanks be to God.
The assembly may offer acclamation with applause. A sung acclamation, hymn, or other music may follow. Other symbols of marriage may be given or used at this time, such as Unity Candle.
UNITY CANDLE The promise of faithfulness and commitment that ______ and _______ have made this day, reflect the depths of their love for each other. During the playing/singing of ________, ______ and ______ will be lighting together the Unity Candle. Option with Children. As a sign of their commitment to each other, _______ and ______, and their children will be lighting the Unity Candle together as a new family is bound to one another in love.
Marriage Blessing The couple may kneel. The presiding minister may extend a hand over the couple while praying for God's blessing in the following or similar words. Option A: Most gracious God, we give you thanks for your tender love in sending Jesus Christ to come among us, to be born of a human mother, and to endure the cross for our sake, that we may have abundance of life. By the power of your Holy Spirit pour out the abundance of your blessing on name and name. Defend them from every enemy. Lead them into all peace. Let your love be a seal upon their hearts, a mantle about their shoulders, and a crown upon their foreheads. Bless them so that their lives together may bear witness to your love. Bless them in their work and in their companionship; in their sleeping and in their waking; in their joys and in their sorrows; in their life and in their death. Finally, in your mercy, bring them to that table where your saints feast forever in your heavenly home, through Jesus Christ our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God, now and forever. Amen. Option B: The Lord God who created our first parents and established them in marriage, establish and sustain you, that you may find delight in each other and grow in holy love until your life’s end. Amen. Parents or others may speak additional words of blessing and encouragement at this time.
PARENTAL BLESSING The devoted and loving support of parents can be a vital and wondrous blessing for those who enter into marriage. Will you the parents of ___ and ____ continue to lend your support and to give your love to them? Will you encourage them, help them, and pray for them in their new life together as husband and wife? If so answer, we will with God’s help.” We will with God’s help.
COMMUNITY BLESSING The devoted and loving support of family and friends can be a vital and wondrous blessing for those who enter into marriage. Will you the family and friends of ___ and ____ continue to lend your support and to give your love to them? Will you encourage them, help them, and pray for them in their new life together as husband and wife? If so answer, we will with God’s help.” We will with God’s help.
Prayers of Intercession
HOLY COMMUNION A service with communion may continue.
Lord's Prayer A service without communion continues as follows.
Gathered into one by the Holy Spirit, let us pray as Jesus taught us. Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name, thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, forever and ever. Amen
Blessing OPTION A: The blessed and holy Trinity, make you strong in faith and love, defend you on every side, and guide you in truth and peace, now and forever. Amen. OPTION B: God Almighty send you light and truth to keep you all the days of your life. The hand of God protect you; the holy angels accompany you; and the blessing of almighty God, the Father, the + Son, and the Holy Spirit, be with you now and forever. Amen.
The couple may greet one another with a kiss.
A hymn may be sung or instrumental music played as the wedding group and the ministers depart. From Sundays and Seasons.com. Copyright 2007 Augsburg Fortress. All rights reserved. Reprinted by permission under Augsburg Fortress Liturgies Annual License #26173.
WEDDING INFORMATION _____________________________________________________
DATE OF WEDDING _______________________________ TIME ______________________
DATE OF REHEARSAL _____________________________ TIME ______________________
PASTOR(S) OFFICIATING _______________________________________________
PRE-MARRIAGE COUNSELING DATES
SESSION ONE: ________________________________
SESSION TWO: ________________________________
SESSION THREE: ________________________________
GENERAL INFORMATION
BRIDE GROOM
NAME: _________________________________ NAME ________________________________
ADDRESS: ______________________________ ADDRESS _____________________________
CITY/STATE ____________________________ CITY/STATE ___________________________
PHONE _________________________________ PHONE ________________________________
E-MAIL _________________________________ E-MAIL ________________________________
BIRTHDATE ____________________________ BIRTHDATE ___________________________
CHURCH MEMBERSHIP __________________ CHURCH MEMBERSHIP _________________
LOCATION _____________________________ LOCATION ____________________________
PREVIOUS MARRIAGE _____ YES _____ NO PREVIOUS MARRIAGE _____ YES _____NO
DATE OF DIVORCE ______________________ DATE OF DIVROCE _____________________
SPOUSE DECEASED _____________________ SPOUSE DECEASED ____________________
CHILDREN ____________________________ CHILDREN ___________________________
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PARENTS ____________________________ PARENTS ___________________________
____________________________ ___________________________ WEDDING RECEPTION (Invited ) ___YES __NO LOCATION ___________________________
REHEARSAL DINNER (Invited) ____ YES ____ NO LOCATION _________________________
MARRIED ADDRESS _________________________________________________
CITY/STATE _________________________________________________
PHONE _________________________________________________
WEDDING PARTY PARTICIPANTS
MAID/MATRON OF HONOR BEST MAN
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BRIDESMAIDS GROOMSMEN
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FLOWER GIRL _______________________ RING BEARER ________________________
USHERS _________________________ ACOLYTE ____________________________
GUEST BOOK ________________________ BULLETINS __________________________
LECTORS ______________________________________________________________________
SOLOIST _________________________ ORGANIST ___________________________
PHOTOGRAHPER _____________________ VIDEO _______________________________
FLORIST _________________________
MARRIAGE LICENSE INFORMATION SHARED _______________
HONORARIUM INFORMATION REVIEWED ________________
WORSHIP SERVICE
ENTRANCE (PROCESSIONAL) _____________________________________________________
INTRODUCTION _______ OPTION A _________ OPTION B _________ OPTION C
DECLARATION OF INTENTION _______ OPTION A _________ OPTION B _________ OPTION C
PRAYER OF THE DAY _______ OPTION A _________ OPTION B
READINGS ___________________________ ____________________________ ________________________
VOWS ________ OPTION A _________ OPTION B __________ OPTION C
________ OPTION D _________ OPTION E __________ OPTION F
BLESSING OF RINGS ________ OPTION A _________ OPTION B
GIVING OF RINGS ________ OPTION A _________ OPTION B
UNITY CANDLE ________ YES _________ NO _________ MOTHERS LIGHTING ________ CHILDREN PARTICIPATING
MARRIAGE BLESSING ________ OPTION A _________ OPTION B
PARENTAL BLESSING COMMUNITY BLESSING _______ YES _________ NO ________ YES _________ NO
HOLY COMMUNION _______ YES _________ NO
BLESSING ________ OPTION A __________ OPTION B
KNEELING BENCH ________ YES _________ NO
AISLE CANDLES ________ YES _________ NO
AISLE RUNNER ________ YES _________ NO
RELEASE OF GUESTS ______________________________________________
MUSIC DURING THE SERVICE ______________________________________________________
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PARENTS IN ______________________________________
OUT ______________________________________
GRANDPARENTS ______________________________________
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WEDDING BULLETINS
_______ ST JOHN __________ PRINTER _________ COUPLE
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